The best lessons in life come during the most difficult moments.
It’s an ironic twist to your torment. However, just because there’s a lesson to be learned doesn’t lessen the fact that it really did hurt, break, embarrass, scare, or scar you.
Whether a million other people have experienced similar pains and perils, made the same mistakes, or tripped and fell at the exact same spots you did, don’t let them generalize or belittle your battles because they are yours, and the pain is always personal.
Your lessons should go deeper than new commitments to make better choices.
You should also feel a new strength of purpose within yourself. It would be best if you became better for your battles.
Still, even with positive progress, I know it seems like for every step you take toward that better life you desire and seek something or someone shows up from the past—or the present—and shoves you back two steps or more. One day, people praise your performance, and the next day, they seem content to be contentious and put dents in your confidence.
I think the worst thing anyone can do to someone else, especially when they’re already fighting so much, is to push them over the edge rather than back to safety.
But we’re too busy or don’t want to interfere.
This reminds me of a word or phrase I used to hear people use when they felt they were being mistreated or disrespected by someone or something. You may have heard this form of “slanguage” when people say, “Don’t dis me like that.” It basically means, “Don’t treat me that way because it hurts me.”
What can this three-letter word “dis” teach each of us about living a better life with ourselves and others? Have you ever been “dissed” by friends, family, co-workers, or life?
Has anyone ever put a (dis) in front of your (dis)courage or tried to (dis)credit you and doubted your (dis)abilities or your (dis)beliefs? Has anyone ever been distant when you needed the comfort of a hug or a shoulder to lean on? Have you ever been distressed, disgusted, or disappointed?
You get the point of this discussion. It’s disconcerting how many times we’ve all been dissed by others, especially ourselves.
We’ve all got some kind of battle raging in the background, and behind the smiles are often hidden miles of heartaches. When someone says they’ve been there, they probably have or are there now.
Let’s stop judging and grudging. Let’s stop being bitter and start being better for our battles and fight them together.
I know you want to be happier, healthier, and holier. I know the battles ahead look like disasters, but the ultimate victory must begin from within if you want to win.
You must invest more than just an interest in your life.
The choice is yours. You can continue to take the casual cruelties dished out by the world or choose to (dis)regard the naysayers, (dis)mantle self-doubts, and (dis)cover the strength that has always resided within you.
You are the author of your story, and “dis” is just a chapter, not the conclusion.
It’s time to stop dishing out the dissing and find the peace you’ve been missing. The ending of your story lies in your hands.
Thank you for taking the time to read my work.
Corey Baumgartner “The White Knight”
“Saving the world one word at a time and one heart at a time.”
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