The One(s) That Got Away (Final)
No matter how many "got away" don't give up on finding (and keeping) true love.
I felt that for the final part of this “got away” series to inspire you to seize the date and seal the deal in your pursuit of finding and cherishing true love—not letting it get away—that I’d share a few more important “T’s” with you. However, there are many more letters and ways to invest in loving yourself and others, but those will be letters for another day.
We’ve talked about Time, Talking, and Technology. Let’s talk about Talents, Travel and Touch.
TALENTS
While we each have our own individual skills and arenas of competition, I believe that those who play together not only stay together, but they become stronger together as a team no matter their talents. It could be on a court, or at the kitchen table.
It could be on the beach, or the backyard, but playing together is not just a game changer, it’s a game (relationship/love) saver.
And while we’re on the subject, if couples would focus more on complementing (not just complimenting) and on competing with each other more than against each other, I believe there would not only be less breakups and divorce, but happier relationships, families and homes. I think unity is the one of the greatest talents to improve of all.
TRAVEL
I think in today’s word it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos and doldrums of day-to-day living that we forget how to live. We forget how to enjoy the beauty outside, let alone the beauty inside—and I’m talking about the heart, not just the home.
A road trip can be a great way (and a gateway) to inspire some adventure in your life and love.
It doesn’t have to be anywhere fancy, or cost a lot of money. Just grab some snacks, get out of the house, turn off the GPS, roll down the windows, hold hands, sing out loud to your favorite songs and explore the world…together! And if you find a safe place to pull over—on the mountaintop or a rest stop—turn up the tunes and dance together.
TOUCH
There are many metaphors about love being the glue, or grease that holds relationships together. Sounds too messy to me, but regardless of how one describes love, there is one thing I believe may be the most important “glue” of all—touch. And I’m not just talking about the sacred union and expression of love through physical intimacy.
While physical intimacy is fundamental (not just fun) to the reinforcement of a relationship, I’m talking about the strength and reinforcement of seemingly simple (but very powerful) moments of touching that too often go overlooked, rushed through, or put on hold because life is calling.
These touches include hugs, holding hands, high fives, and even just sitting next to each other during meals, or movies. When was the last time you passed your special someone and gave them an affectionate touch? Did you get a hug and/or kiss before you left for work? When you got home? Was it a rush, or just rushed? There’s not enough room for every example, just know that when touch is a touchstone in your relationships, they will be stronger, more enjoyable and beautiful.
When your Time, Talking, Technology, Talents, Trave, and Touching through love is left until last, it will eventually left out and left behind because of the failure to prioritize and protect where (from who) your greatest companionship and happiness comes from.
Because what’s the point of dating/marriage if that person isn’t your most valuable treasure? Just because other people may have forgotten how to love and to be loved and or aren’t seizing the date, doesn’t mean you need to fall into those rotten routines that have captivated and capsized the best relationships.
Alright, go out there and seize the date! And strive each day in every way to improve and protect the most precious person in your life (including yourself) with love. In other words…